As with everything else when it comes to sex

The 20 Best Discreet & Quiet Sex Toys for a Crowded House

Globally, the sex toy market is predicted to grow by 9.92 billion USD by 2023. A big contributor to that growth is a shift in our belief system from “sex toys are dirty” to “sex toys are healthy” and toy companies are investing heavily in that messaging. The sex toy industry is growing faster than most of us can make room in our nightstands, but it’s not just because we’re talking about orgasm equality and sexual pleasure in a way that we never have before. It’s because sex toys (and first among them, vibrators) are touted as the remedy to everything from low self-esteem to insomnia, menstrual cramps to chronic dryness. Yes vibrators, your vibrator, which sounds like a revving engine, has always gotten the job done (and then some), but these quiet toys can bring just as much power and intensity. If you’re a first-time vibrator user, many of the toys below offer a wide range of vibration patterns and speeds to ensure you can find a comfortable introductory setting.

But despite its general reliability, a larger wand vibrator doesn’t necessarily scream discreet. This wand in particular tends to be louder, and definitely requires more real estate in your nightstand drawer. As with everything else when it comes to sex, what makes a good vibrator relies a lot on a single factor — your own preferences.

While at Indiana University, I worked as a blogger and sex educator at the Kinsey Institute. Its flexibility and the fact that it’s waterproof make it adaptable for couples in all kinds of situations. Though its price tag is on the higher end of the spectrum at $199, it comes with a one-year warranty included for free.

If our pick is unavailable , or if you are specifically interested in a plug-in vibrator, we recommend the Magic Wand Plus. Typically retailing for about $55 less than the Magic Wand Rechargeable, the Plus model is basically identical in function and appearance, with the same vibration power, four intensity levels, and easy-to-clean silicone head. Anorgasmia, low libido, genital pain or discomfort, or limited genital function can be factors.

Whether you’re looking for something to use solo or with a partner, you can’t go wrong with the Magic Bullet. As its name suggests, the Dame Pom is tiny enough to fit in the palm of your hand, but that doesn’t mean it’s not mighty in its vibration powers. This vibe features five vibration patterns and five intensities that’ll satisfy all of your sexual needs. The Svakom Cici Waterproof Silicone Vibrator’s flexible neck bends up to 30 degrees to hit all of the right spots, but that’s not the only reason why we’re loving this G-spot massager. Its six vibration modes and long, ergonomic shape can be used for both internal and external stimulation — so you can get the best of both worlds.

With its slightly slimmer shaft, flexible clitoral stimulator, and intense vibration patterns, it’s ideal for use with a partner. Whether you’re taking turns controlling the settings or using it during foreplay, this toy knows how to play nice (but not too nice). Skyn Vibes caters to newcomers in the world of pleasure with its user-friendly design and approachable features.

In addition to vibrating, clit suckers use air-suction technology to mimic the sensation of oral sex. Womanizer is a go-to brand in the sucker space—and of all the brand’s models, the waterproof Premium 2 is the best, Marla Renee Stewart, a certified sex educator and founder of Velvet Lips Sex Education, tells SELF. Just five inches long, this budget-friendly vibe packs the intensity of a wand in the petite size of a bullet.

If and when you’re ready to upgrade from a bullet vibrator to something bigger and insertable, try the Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator. Yes, I know Je Joue calls it a bullet, but it’s bigger and more versatile than its name suggests. It has a bulbous tip designed to stimulate the G-spot, but it can also be used for external simulation. Move over neon-colored and animal-themed vibrators from the ’90s and early ’00s. Today’s vibrator’s are sophisticated and designed to prioritize safety and function as well as pleasure. There’s a vibrator out there for every taste and preference, whether you like a simple bullet or something more elaborate.